Why I’m No Longer Going to Post About the Past.

I had a question for myself after I published The Boy is Mine – Part 2 that for the first time I couldn’t answer. I asked myself. “Lucia, by reliving these situations and writing about them are you not continuing to live in the past? The fact I couldn’t answer it. And the fact I asked myself this in the first place played on my mind all day. 

During a conversation I had yesterday evening I realised it was the same conversation. The same conversation I’ve been having for the past four years on and off. Before I could even feel a way about what I was hearing. The answer hit me. In fact I am living in past. Therefore manifesting conversations I have no business having or seeing people I have no desire to see.


I asked for it. I have continuously been writing and reliving the past. I’ve come to the conclusion that, until I stop revisiting my past I won’t be fully cut off from people. People, I have worked so hard to disassociate myself from and it will continue to have some sort of effect on my life. I’ve realised that by bringing this into my now, I’m almost allowing things to bring me down. I also, now feel like I have no business bringing such things to Two of Them One of Me. I mean, the tag line states “Discovering the Positives of Parenting Alone While Beating the Stereotypes” and I just feel like lately I haven’t been doing much of that at all.  

Now, you may ask why I decided to talk about my past in the first place. It’s because, when I first started Two of Them One of Me, I received some backlash (Last time I talk about the past, promise) about how I was putting a false representation of my life. Even while I kept my blog up and continued to write and engage with my amazing audience. I believe that I was affected by it subconsciously. Honestly it made me second guess myself and so at the time I felt like the best thing for me to do was to share my past, everything I felt you deserved to know, I’ve wrote it here. In hopes it could empower at least one women.

Sharing my past with you was also for me to be as relatable as possible. Don’t get me wrong I know the posts are relatable. I’ve lived for some of the feedback I’ve received. I’ve said this before but I’ll be honest discovering the positives of parenting alone hasn’t happened over night. I felt somewhat fake creating Two of Them One of Me. And making out to my audience that my journey has always been plain sailing. I have had to experience some real bul*^^it to become Two of Them One of Me. But, I’m done with that and I am no longer going to address anything especially the ‘negative’ things I’ve experienced in the past simply because I can’t move forward if I’m constantly looking back.




So, I’m marking today Thursday 9th August as a new start for Two of Them One of Me. I’ve been working on something. And I’m very ready and excited to share it with you (I hope you’re as excited as me). Two of them One of me has a new series “Single Mom Boss” on the way. I will be featuring single mom bosses, who are killing it, doing the best they can, all while discovering the positives of parenting alone and of course beating the stereotypes.


The first post will be published on Sunday 19th August 2018. And will feature a single mom boss very close to my heart. 


If you know a single mom boss, or you are a single mom boss then get in contactI’d love to feature you (don’t forget you don’t have to own a business to be a boss mom) 

 While we’re here, “Advice On Returning to Education – Single Mom Edition” will be coming real soon, so keep and eye out.


P.s if you were here yesterday reading The Boy is Mine – Part 2, I just want to say, thanks for keeping up with me. I appreciate you all more then you know.


TwoofthemOneofme x

18 thoughts on “Why I’m No Longer Going to Post About the Past.

  1. I’m so proud of you! You’re going to thrive! I can’t wait to read all about those single mom bosses! I was a single mom for a lonnnnng time. It’s a beautiful journey. You’re an amazing mom and your babies are so lucky to have you. I’m so proud how you express yourself. I’m proud of how you’re manifesting positive change into your life! Light and love to you and your beautiful family!

  2. This was a very beautiful post that really spoke to me. I’m currently doing the same thing, thinking and writing about the past all the time. But the past I’m talking about is very close to the present and I’m still using my writing as therapy, so I’m not ready to stop yet – but this post really made me think, because you’re absolutely right!

    Congrats on your blog’s new beginning! I think that’s amazing and so is the new series. Such an empowering one, love it!

    The Love Addict x

    1. I’m glad you could relate and I’m looking forward to getting stuck into your blog.
      I felt exactly the same when I began writing about the past, but I think we all know when we need to end the chapter.
      Thank you so much x

  3. Congrats on your new beginnings. Letting go is the hardest part but the feeling of breaking free is rewarding.I can’t wait to read your first visit at your new series/blog!

  4. What a great idea for blog series! 🙂 Looking forward to reading the post. 🙂
    And totally agree that moving forward is a good thing to do. 🙂 We have to accept our past, but not constantly think (or write) about it. Once you’ve dealt with it, leave it there – in the past.
    Madara | https://lookforsmile.com

  5. I guess there’s truth to what you mention about living in the past. I feel like it’s okay to talk about issues, stories, happenings, etc. as long as there isn’t anger or negativity in that conversation. I feel like if you can share something that might help others, there’s growth. When negativity comes to the surface, that’s when you’re still living in it. However, I wish you the best in not posting about the past. It will be a good exercise I think.

    Olli – http://www.olliviette.com

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